Last Name Changing…

Hi there!  Happy Thursday to you!  The weekend is so close, I can feel it.  So is another heat wave.  Lucky us!  This summer has been so incredibly hot lately.  I’m hoping and praying that it’s not this hot on our wedding day.  I guess it won’t really matter all that much because our wedding is in the evening.  So hopefully by that time, it will have cooled down.  One can hope, wish and pray.  I don’t know about you but I don’t think I’d be able to stand this heat and humidity standing outside in a wedding gown.  I would feel bad for the groomsman though.  They will be in full tuxedos.  That will most definitely be hotter than wearing a wedding gown.  I just hope for our sake, the weather cooperates.  We shall see. Only time will tell.

I wanted to say, thank you so much to everyone for your kind words about our wedding invitations!  It truly does mean so much to me from the bottom of my heart.  I really did work so hard on them with our graphic designer.  I am very pleased and it made me feel good to see that people appreciate the time and effort that went into creating them.  So thank you very much again!

My stomach wasn’t feeling all that great last night so I wanted to keep things simple.  I went with my usual breakfast for dinner route.  I had twice over eggs, with a cinnamon raisin bagel with Earth Balance “butter”.

My dinner

 

So today, I wanted to discuss the topic of last name changing once you get married.  I wanted to see what your opinions on it are.  First I’ll say how I feel and then I’ll open it up for discussion because I’m curious.  I am and have been planning on changing my last name once we are married to Mike’s last name.  I am going to start off by saying that I am in no way, shape or form nervous or scared or any of the above to marry him.  We have been together for well over 6.5 years now.  So I have been waiting for this moment my entire life.

I started doing research on what is involved in changing your last name and where you need to change it and things of that nature.  I started feeling like I was going to have a panic attack.  I feel like my entire identity is changing.  I don’t take marriage or anything like that lightly.  I’m nervous to change my last name.  Obviously, I have had the same last name as my family for my entire life.  Even though my parents were recently divorced a few years ago, my mom still has the same last name.  It’s something that I feel connects me to my family.  Even though they are divorced, we are still tied together because of our last name.  I’m scared to break that.  I feel like it’s going to be weird not having the same last name as my family.

I’m nervous about hearing my name called in a doctor’s office or wherever as, “Hope (fill in Mike’s last name here).”  It’s going to be a huge change for me and I’m just scared of change.  I do not adapt to change well.  I think that is why I am so nervous to change my last name.  I want to have the same last name as Mike.  I want us to become a legal family and share a last name.  I’m just nervous to do so.  I know those nerves will go away soon.  It’s just a lot right now.

What do you think?  If you are married, did you change your last name?  Were you nervous about it?  If you aren’t married yet, when you do get married, are you planning on changing your last name?  Do you think I’m acting crazy?!

I never really gave changing my last name much thought, until I started researching everything that goes into it.  It’s very overwhelming.  I also want to say that I completely support those who don’t change their last name or who hyphenate their two last names.  That is completely up to you.  I know that I do not want those things personally.  I do want to change my last name to Mike’s.  I just thought it would be interested to see what other people think about this topic.

Alright, well that is enough for one day.  Have a great Thursday!

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8 Responses

  1. I would change my name for sure, but I’ve never really thought about how weird it would be to not have my last name anymore. Huh. I’d still change it though…I’m a traditionalist.

    • I totally agree with you. I’m planning on changing my last name as well. I want my husband and our children to all have the same last name. It’s just going to be weird to get used to :)

  2. I’m kind of indifferent on the matter. I can see the benefits of both sides of the argument, and everyone does things for various reasons. I know if I was professionally publishing papers and research, I’d probably want to keep my last name at least in that realm. However, I don’t have a real attachment to my last name and honestly wouldn’t mind dropping it at all. Though, I think even after dropping it I’ll still be called Krissie J by my friends, hah.

    • I totally agree with you! If I was doing something professionally and needed to use my last name for that, I would do that otherwise I’m all for changing it. Haha! :)

  3. I just got home from Florida. Carol had a heart attack while we were there and so we had to wait until the doc gave her permission to fly home. I had a bunch of mail since I was gone for a month. In that mail was your wedding invitation. I have never, ever, seen such a beautiful, classy, elegant invitation! Wow! You did such a wonderful job creating them.
    As for changing your name…It only feels weird for the first few times you use it. I opted to keep my maiden name as a middle name and not hypenating it with my new last name.

    • Oh, my gosh Jane!!! Is Carol alright? That is really scary! Thank you so much!! I worked so hard on those invitations. I’m glad that you loved them! That makes me so happy :) I think it is going to be weird when I use my new last name for the first time but you are right. I will get used to it.

  4. I definitely changed my last name. I wanted to have the same last name as my husband and my children. I love my family, but I will still be a part of my family even without having a shared name. However, several of my friends kept their maiden names in lieu of their middle names or even just added their husband’s name to the very end of their name (not hyphenated, just using their maiden name as a second middle name). I always thought it would be hard to get used to my new last name, but it really wasn’t. It just felt right. :)

    • You are so right. It doesn’t mattter if you have the same last name as your family. You are still a part of the family regardless. That is a really good point. I want to have the same last name as my husband and children too. That is really important to me. :)

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